Les yeux sont le miroir de l'dme

You like my French, oui? The title phrase, translated in English says, "The eyes are the mirror of the soul."

I've heard it said that you can tell a lot about a person by looking into their eyes. Maybe we often realize that. Maybe that's why we have trouble maintaining eye contact.

The reasons for this may be many. Self-confidence, shyness, fear or intimidation, just to name a few.

But there are times when eye contact really matters. Like when I want my wife to know that she is the most important thing in my life. Or when I want my boss or co-worker to know that I am really listening. Or, like during an interview.

I recently learned a technique that I would suggest using on co-workers and bosses. If you are uncomfortable with eye-to-eye contact (no staring please), try looking into the other person's left (on your right) eye. I found this approach to be much less intimidating.

Trying this on your spouse/significant other will not likely acheive the desired result, and might just completely freak them out.

See ya.